Posts Tagged With: Ramana Maharshi
Experiencing the world from a Non-Dual perspective, or in other words, through the understanding that nothing is actually happening other than the manifestations of mind, does not exempt one from “falling back into the drama again.”
In order to explain to “others” how a shift in perspective can reveal a change to the storyline of their lives, words and dialogue are often used to bring about an understanding. There is usually wonderment that these friends/students/colleagues can’t see how simple the shift is, and seem to cling to these stories of problems and people doing them harm. In real detachment, it is possible to see one’s/the Self as everything, and the stories the mind conjures to interpret the world and its phenomenon, merely phantoms and silliness.
But…when one is in that place of story and of identifying themselves as a person in conflict with another, it is quite amazing how the ego mind creeps back in and grabs a hold of us once more!
Recently, I had this experience. Old dynamics at play with a family member triggered an emotional reactive response. I spent days trying to figure out how to respond to possible verbal/emotional attacks and how to express to this person how they made me feel. I was exhausted and wary and defensive and annoyed. I began to think about how I could “fix” it or avoid it…whichever proved easiest and most permanent, but to no avail, because the emotions wouldn’t leave me. It was then that I remembered what my teacher had once said to me,”Feel the emotional story of your conflict, not the details of the story itself. It is never about the ‘other’ person.” It is the same teaching I now offer to others. But it is easy to forget when our own mind’s triggers arise. Once the emotional story is connected to, we can realize that the “other person” is nothing but an actor in the play of your life, offering the opportunity to experience any old unmet emotions, long since repressed deeply into your psyche. It is an embrace of the difficulty, so that old energy can be healed. And even in that, there is no need to heal anything, as it is consciousness itself causing it and sustaining us simultaneously.
I recognize that this post may resonate with some and be disturbing to others. It is not for me to convince anyone of anything. But on this Thanksgiving week, I am grateful for these teachings, as they offer me the tools to navigate life; a chance to awaken further, to peel away yet one more layer of the onion to reveal the Self in all its glory.
This blog is called “Beyond the Story.” Beyond what story? Well, everything is story. The narratives and myths of history, and our many belief systems, are indicative of the ways which human beings communicate within themselves and with others.
Symbols and stories are told and experienced in varying degrees of “real.” The stories we tell when we introduce ourselves to someone new, the stories we tell our loved ones to comfort or to stir them to action, and the stories we tell ourselves about what is safe, what is possible, what we believe in…are all narratives conjured up by the mind based on our beliefs, and based once again on the symbols we’ve interpreted and experienced. As my teacher might say, the five senses and the mind create the story of an experience. But what lies beyond the story? What exists when there is no story left? When the sensory experiences no longer grab a hold of us?
There is more love out there than anyone can imagine. More love than I would have even dared to dream was possible. It’s there. It IS. And we’re it.